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Overcoming Jealousy with Hypnotherapy

Are you racked with feelings of jealousy?

Are you constantly afraid that your partner might leave you for someone else?

Has your jealousy become an obsession that you want to be free of? If so, you are NOT alone. Everywhere in the world, you can find people who are jealous of many things, ranging from who looks at their partner, to a co-worker being promoted ahead of them, to the status of the family next door seemingly at higher level than they enjoy and more. Jealousy can rear its ugly head at any moment, and once those thoughts appear they can be difficult to ignore.

What is jealousy, anyway?

Yes, it is a negative emotion, but what is the exact emotion?

We feel jealous when we see something that someone ‘’has’’ but we ‘’don’t’’. But is it really as simple as that? We like to believe that it is, but psychoanalysis reveals that the ‘’green-eyed monster’’ is an emotional response to much more complex stimuli.

An attempt to decode this complex emotion called jealousy tells us that it is a response to a complex mix of “insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something of great personal value”.

The feeling is triggered especially in the case of “an existing connection” to a thing or person. And the feeling typically translates into a complex response as well – one that combines one or more emotions of “anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness and disgust”.

However, surprisingly, in the case of most people, once the feeling passes, we wish we hadn’t felt that way. We wish we could be ‘cured’ of jealousy. And this is indeed possible. In fact, the ‘cure’ lies in rooting out that insecurity. And here’s where hypnotherapy will help you to overcome the jealousy.

Decoding your jealousy

Here is a 3-part exercise that psychologists recommend to help you get to the root of (and overcome) your jealousy:

  1. First, evaluate how you would classify your connection with the thing (could be a person, a thing, an attention, anything for that matter) that you are feeling jealous about.
  2. Now evaluate what is the fear or insecurity lying behind it. The lack of this ‘thing’ that you are jealous about can lead to the loss of what in your life? And of course, is this fear or insecurity a rational one?
  3. Finally, evaluate if it is indeed a threat. And even if it is a threat, is it worthy of the adverse reaction you are having.

Always keep in mind that this evaluation isn’t an easy process – the third step being the most challenging. However, practice and affirmation are essential when trying to change something that lies so deep inside the psyche. To that end, practicing some self-hypnosis that helps you to connect with your inner self may actually amplify the results. So here goes…

How hypnosis and hypnotherapy help you to overcome jealousy

Hypnosis allows you to switch off from the constant stream of negative thoughts currently going around your head. Whilst you are in hypnosis, you will be given specific suggestions about your confidence and self-image, and self-esteem exercises to help you to focus on the positive things in your life. The deep relaxation you experience in hypnosis allows you to regain your peace of mind. As you feel better, you begin to act in a more positive way. You feel less hurt and angry, and so feel calmer and more in control of your emotions. Hypnosis is well known for its ability to stop bad habits (nail-biting, for weight loss, and smoking, for example), and hypnosis for jealousy, insecurity, and other emotional problems allows you to stop the bad habits of irrational fear, assuming the worst, jumping to conclusions, and instead to build yourself respect and self-confidence.

No medications: Hypnosis does not use any drugs, so you get the relief you need without any impairment or side effects. This means that you can focus on what is important and not worry about taking medications that may have unwanted side effects.

Effective: Because hypnosis works at the source, the feelings of jealousy are tamped down and go away thanks to the treatments. You will be able to recognize when the feelings arise and use the techniques to prevent them from getting out of control.With hypnosis you will learn to live in the moment and to forget the ‘’what ifs?’’. You will become more confident and confidence is a much more attractive trait than insecurity. So, whenever you feel jealous or insecure, please call. No obligations. Preventing negative thinking is always a good idea.

Rhondda Stewart
Rhondda has a long and distinguished career spanning decades, including winning the Educator of the Year Award 2004 from the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association (USA). To find out more about Rhondda and her achievements, please click bellow.
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