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“What the mind agrees with, the body will respond to is the basic premise of hypnosis”.
“When your mind and body are in agreement, change occurs naturally”
EVERY WORD YOU SPEAK AND HEAR IS MADE MEANING OF BY THE INDIVIDUAL SPEAKING OR LISTENING. WE ALL INTERPRET IN MANY DIFFERENT WAYS. SOME SEE WHAT YOU SAY OTHERS HEAR IT…...
Conversational Hypnosis is the ability to subtly communicate with another person's subconscious or unconscious mind without them noticing. As it often takes place in the course of a seemingly regular conversation, it is also known as Sleight of Mouth. We utilise this conversational model to assist people in becoming more open to change.
Milton Erickson worked with carefully selected words, body language, intentional gestures, facial expressions and tonality that seem commonplace. This style of hypnosis assists a client in being more open to mind/body change.
The aim of conversational hypnosis is to distract the conscious mind whilst the unconscious mind makes meaning of indirect language patterns and tones. It makes meaning from that clients own individual way of seeing and hearing. This then builds into what they FEEL and leads into what we call a Trans Derivational Search (TDS), whereby you make meaning at a deep unconscious level. If the language we use is directional for change, then the unconscious mind interprets this and change bubbles up into a conscious awareness.
Breathing and Tone
Relaxing your breath, telling the story at a slow and even tone, occasionally dropping your voice slightly can elicit a different kind of TDSing that supports the client in relaxing more.
Rapport - smiling nodding with the person, mirror and match body posture, breathing
Language is very Visual, Auditory or Kinesthetic VAK and often a mix of these in the general conversation.
Language Patterns are what we build the framework for Conversational Hypnosis.
Clear Goal – Tangible
Building of Conversations and STORIES AND METAPHORS (find stories on the internet, put in subject matter e.g., stories around nature.)
What we see, hear and feel we filter through our own beliefs, values and experiences and interpret it from our own Map of the World.
Stories should be around the conversation, or relevant to what you know about the client. Discovering, how they make meaning in the words they use, you can start to gain information and then build a story around that. You can also build a library of generic stories from the internet or from pictures places, holidays, different destinations.
Indirect Suggestive Language - Presuppositions, Binds, Tag Questions
Bind – “Your unconscious mind can help you discover new ways of feeling powerful and free on the inside and find perhaps today, perhaps tomorrow or perhaps after a good night’s sleep, you do just that…isn’t that nice” (tag question).
Suggestions then appeals to the unconscious mind to find new ways, new feelings empowering the client by that bubbling up into the conscious mind. It is very subtle so the results of change can take time to show consciously, sometimes it’s so subtle it’s hard for the client to explain what is different, often it is just stating they feel different in a positive way.
THE AIM OF ALL HYPNOSIS IS TO BUILD ON SELF IDENTITY AND SELF EMPOWEREMENT. TO BE THE VERY BEST VERSION OF YOU.
Notice client eye cues and language…then either turn the K into a positive K, if they seem a little stuck in feeling then move them with your language to Visual “I often see…. or You can see things in many different ways... perhaps hear something different.
When do we notice eye cues and language and move the client to a Visual and or Auditory distinction? When they need to change. E.g. from sad to being ok. We do this through language patter…to interrupt the pattern of where they are stuck and this can improve their current state of mind. Example: “Many people breathe differently when they want to change something. Does that work for you? (Tag Question)
AIM AT VAGUE LANGUAGE, THIS SUPPORTS “FREE ASSOCIATION” AND THIS BUILDS MOVEMENT INTO CHANGE. ERICKSONIAN CALLED THIS SLEIGHT OF MOUTH
“I am wondering how your day went? Did you find it balanced out somehow or was just more enjoyable than you thought?
The ocean is always changing, moving and flowing. The ocean is energy in motion. Some days it is as still as a lake, some nights its rough and ferocious. Always changing, always energy in motion. And I wonder if the ocean critiques itself for not having perfect surfable breaks?
Noooo, it doesn't, does it? It just allows itself to shift and change, always moving and changing, ebbing and flowing. Some days with strong currents. Other days still waters. And still so worthy of just being the way it is now....